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Why Kindness Matters Most

So, I was pretty mean to somebody recently. She didn’t deserve it at all, and it crushed me. It may…
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The 3 Things We Should Always Be Doing

Do you remember that part in the movie Glennary Glen Ross with a young, brash Alec Baldwin where he is…
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The Gentle Art of Blessing

by Pierre Pradervand On awakening, bless this day, for it is already full of unseen good which your blessings will call forth; for…
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N.A.A.P. Time for Adults – Understanding the Utility of Mindfulness Practice

When I taught mindfulness at retreat centers, treatment facilities, the cancer center or 1:1 with coaching clients I have found…
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The Keys to Success: Resilience, Optimism, Meaning & Purpose

The difference between those who “succeed” in life and those who do not very often lies in the level of…
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On Realizing I Was a Helicopter Parent, Too!!

Ok, soooo.. I got called out when I posted some pictures of my daughter learning to ride a bicycle. My…
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The Importance of Dreaming Big and Believing in Others

One of the most important things we can do for others is to keep dreaming big ourselves. This may sound…
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Mindfulness is NOT a Self-Improvement Project

It took me 10 years of Buddhist practice and study to learn this lesson. It took me pursuing a Master’s…
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How to Win Your 2019 With Ease

Anyone who knows me well knows that I love goals! I love setting goals, I love envisioning the future, dreaming…
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Allowing Heaven

I was going to write something beautiful and elaborate about how we can trap ourselves and create a self-limiting reality…
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The Lost Art of Boredom

The best thing my mom ever did was ground me from church. Wait, that’s not true. The best thing my…
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Uncovering our Client’s History of Sanity

The first open-air cremation I ever attended was of a psychiatrist and Buddhist teacher Ed Podvoll, or Llama Mingyur. It…
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Thank God it’s Monday!!

Thank God it’s Monday!! If you are not saying “Thank God It’s Monday!” on your way to work each Monday,…
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Here’s Why Your Treatment Outcomes Suck (In Four Simple Words)..

In 2005 I stepped out of residential treatment work because I was shocked. I was as a freshly minted grad…
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Sex, Drugs, Rock & Roll and….. MONEY.

  There’s a whole lot that does happen in treatment. And there’s a whole lot more that doesn’t. And maybe…
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A Smile In Hell

I grew up reading Dante’s Inferno. My mom was a high school English teacher and tutored students at our home,…
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The Subject Tonight Is Hope

  The subject tonight is Hope And for tomorrow night as well, As a matter of fact I know of…
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Learning to Suffer Better

I was a competitive kid growing up. So when I got to the meditation cushion I was going for gold.…
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There Are No Detours.

I was leading a group a couple years back at a residential treatment center. It was a mindfulness group and…
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The 40% Rule

I didn’t want to go run the other evening. It had been a long day, and I’d met with clients…
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Why Stress is Good News!!

Only under stress can we function optimally. Let me clarify, only under the right kinds of stress can we function…
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How Developing a Needs and Feelings Literacy Will Change Your Life!

So, a couple weeks ago the wife of a male client I’m working with, whom I’m also meeting weekly as…
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The Problem with Therapy

“The problem with therapy is that it makes you feel better but it doesn’t change anything.” Let me just start…
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Mindfulness is NOT a Self-Improvement Project

“Mindfulness is NOT a Self-Improvement Project” This is the first thing I write on the whiteboard when I start leading…
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No Such Thing as a True Story

No Such Thing as a True Story I recently attended the Young Adult Transition Association (YATA) conference in Boulder, Colorado.…
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How to Be A Helicopter Parent

Ok. I got called out when I posted some pictures of my daughter learning to ride a bicycle. My sister…
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Therapeutic process as a religious experience?

I want to share three things in this blog post. First is my favorite word in any language or tradition.…
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The Cobbler’s Daughter Has No Shoes

This is the first in what I hope is going to be a long series of Monday morning messages exploring…
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It’s URGENT! This might be the most important thing you’ll ever read.

URGENT!! I’m convinced that our main problem, the biggest trouble that all of us are facing, is that we think…
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N.A.A.P. TIME FOR ADULTS – UNDERSTANDING THE UTILITY OF MINDFULNESS PRACTICE.

When I teach mindfulness in treatment facilities, at the cancer center or 1:1 with coaching clients if find that there…
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THE UTILITY OF REGRET

There is a common adage that many are encouraged to live by – “Live a life without regrets”. Not only…
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LIFE BALANCE – THE WHAT AND THE HOW

A FEW WAYS TO CREATE MORE BALANCE IN YOUR LIFE We all hear about life balance and it means something…
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THE KEYS TO SUCCESS: RESILIENCE, OPTIMISM, MEANING AND PURPOSE.

The Keys to Success: Resilience, Optimism, Meaning and Purpose The difference between those who “succeed” in life and those who…
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