The Most Important Question You Can Ask

The most important question we can ask has been attributed to Albert Einstein, whether accurately or falsely. Regardless of who said it this question carries immense weight and possibility if contemplated. This question is, "Is the universe a friendly place?" Seems...

On the Importance of Adventure & Play

If you’ve seen Stanley Kubrick's The Shining, then you'll remember the cabin fever experienced by Jack Torrance, played by Jack Nicholson. This lead to his abandoning the writing of his play in favor of, or more accurately transfixed by, typing this sentence over and...

Why Kindness Matters Most

So, I was pretty mean to somebody recently. She didn't deserve it at all, and it crushed me. It may sound dramatic, but it felt like a small death to me. It was unwarranted and unlike me, for the most part. In talking to her a bit about it, and in apologizing, it was...

The 3 Things We Should Always Be Doing

Do you remember that part in the movie Glennary Glen Ross with a young, brash Alec Baldwin where he is grilling the sales team? The “coffee is for closers”, “ABC. Always. Be. Closing!” scene? Well, I had a mom the other day who had just sent her son to a wilderness...

The Gentle Art of Blessing

by Pierre Pradervand On awakening, bless this day, for it is already full of unseen good which your blessings will call forth; for to bless is to acknowledge the unlimited good that is embedded in the very texture of the universe and awaiting each and all....

How to Win Your 2019 With Ease

Anyone who knows me well knows that I love goals! I love setting goals, I love envisioning the future, dreaming big and trying to catch up with what's possible. My clients and staff know that I come prepared with worksheets, with Maslow's hierarchy of needs, with...

Allowing Heaven

I was going to write something beautiful and elaborate about how we can trap ourselves and create a self-limiting reality that becomes our norm or we can get out of our own way and allow ourselves to experience heaven on earth. But ironically, or not so, I kept...

The Lost Art of Boredom

The best thing my mom ever did was ground me from church. Wait, that's not true. The best thing my mom ever did was adopt me and my sister and show us unconditional love and positive regard. The second best thing she ever did was ground me from church. (Fast forward...

Uncovering our Client’s History of Sanity

The first open-air cremation I ever attended was of a psychiatrist and Buddhist teacher Ed Podvoll, or Llama Mingyur. It was the winter of 2003 at the Rocky Mountain Shambhala Center. There was a light snow on the ground, chants and prayers in the air and ashes in the...

Thank God it’s Monday!!

Thank God it’s Monday!! If you are not saying “Thank God It’s Monday!” on your way to work each Monday, please, do yourself and everyone else a favor, turn your car around and go home. Get Your Mind Right If the most effective agent for healing in the work we do are...

Sex, Drugs, Rock & Roll and….. MONEY.

  There's a whole lot that does happen in treatment. And there's a whole lot more that doesn't. And maybe it's not the role of treatment providers to do many of the things that support sustained recovery, movement beyond drugs and alcohol and mental health...

A Smile In Hell

I grew up reading Dante's Inferno. My mom was a high school English teacher and tutored students at our home, so I had the benefit of being surrounded by books and enriched by reading and discussing many of the great classics and works of literature. My mom even made...

The Subject Tonight Is Hope

  The subject tonight is Hope And for tomorrow night as well, As a matter of fact I know of no better topic For us to discuss So that we can all truly Live!   The illuminated and radiant Persian poet, Hafiz, wrote The Subject Tonight Is Love. Standing on his...

Learning to Suffer Better

I was a competitive kid growing up. So when I got to the meditation cushion I was going for gold. I really wanted to stop the pain, stop the thoughts, and wake - up although questioned enlightenment to some extent. I spent the first week or so of my first dathun (a...

There Are No Detours.

I was leading a group a couple years back at a residential treatment center. It was a mindfulness group and we typically started with a real quick check in just to see what was up for people so we can speak more directly to how to work with reducing suffering,...

The 40% Rule

I didn't want to go run the other evening. It had been a long day, and I'd met with clients for 8 hours. In addition to making some calls to parents during my commute. I got home felt like I wanted to just reward myself by just relaxing. This is how the conversation...

Why Stress is Good News!!

Only under stress can we function optimally. Let me clarify, only under the right kinds of stress can we function optimally. In this day in age of business, technology and information overload, and multiple bottom lines we are experiencing more stress than ever. Every...